I hear you and Im there for you. The Baby Must Be. A part of me knows there are logistical & rational reasons why we should not have another & honestly those out number the reasons we should but yet I still want my baby. Im giving up the pregnancy to focus on my toddler & also to avoid a life of suffering for the new baby You know in your heart what the right decision is. **** Truth is ive been crying my eyes out i am on birth control always on time with my pills. This apparently isnt convincing enough, and he asks if Ive taken any more havent I considered it could be a false positive? I dont want to get in trouble I just dont know what to think anymore. Sometimes I wish I still had my baby. After decades of keeping her . I know the abortion has made me realise how much of an amazing mum I am going to be but I am also so desperate to be a mummy and the loss in my gut cant be put into words. However he didnt. Then, my eyes glued to the test as if it were revealing to me the secrets of the universe, I stared. I want to keep the baby but then i feel like maybe i should get an abortion and give myself this chance to truly start over and fresh and cut ties with him other than coparenting. I am so heartbroken. I cant be a single baby mama, with two baby daddies. My husband and i split up a few months ago but have been seeing eachother on and off during that time. I had severe preeclampsia and had to do c-section at week 28. Constant regret and pain . Pro . I miss my baby every minute of every day. I hope you are healing well and have found happiness in other ways, until one day you and your unborn baby see each other again. I'm growing a little bit every day, I just him so much (I dreamt he was a boy) I feel like no one understands how I feel and the support I need to great of what other could provide. Guess what? Wishing all loving thoughts to you. I was pursuing an academic career and never had the chance. I was 6 weeks when I went for an ultrasound .. and all I saw was a small blob that I referred to as my nugget. I feel like Im losing either way; if I get an abortion, Ill most likely regret it, and if I dont, Ill struggle as a single mother. For some reason, Im not moved, but still, I dont want to lose you. And then I panicked. Your baby will always be with you, even if your boyfriend isnt. I would do things so differently. I walked back to the preschool where I work with ten minutes to spare and decided, Ill just do it now. I feel like I dont know what to do with myself. I dont want to undo my choice, but its still so hard to live with sometimes. So I can understand your conflicting emotions. I know thats the right decision but I cant stop crying or thinking about baby . I found out I was pregnant the same day I was supposed to get an IUD inserted. i know its just rational thinking, but it still hurts a lot. I found this whilst considering abortion. Sometimes four days late, sometimes ten days you get the idea. He promised me we would be ready later and I believed him. None of it matters. Your dads hand squeezes mine, although I dont think its purposeful, and he asks again, Whats wrong? I look him dead in the eyes, knowing Im about to change his life forever. In pregnancy, to be "late term" means to be past 41 weeks gestation, or past a patient's due date. , I think to myself. I'll be able to hear the sound of your voice. To explain the center's work, Pinson told a story about a girl who showed up with her mom on the morning the Heartbeat Act took effect, asking for an abortion. A letter from baby to mom right before abortion Hi mom, how are you? And way farther along than I thought. It could take several hours for the baby to die, and sometimes the baby didn't die at all and was born . It uses medicine or surgery to remove the embryo or fetus and placenta from the uterus. Im 22 and I recently went through my 2nd abortion. Does anyone else feel similar? Im broken over this. I feel like shit because I was raised that this was wrong. I pray for you, and your baby. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you. And the joy of playing with my friends. It haunts me every day . Your situation is mine. I love this man but i dont want a baby now and i feel the worst human being in this world for thinking that way. I m a thai women but I moved to England to live with my husband , he is 34 years old and weve been together nearly 3 years. The subject presents itself fairly often and I am at a loss. Dont worry though youre not pregnant!. I thought the tears would stop but they dont. Children cannot eat love and so please think about your financial situation. January 22, 2021 - The anniversary of Roe v Wade - 48 years of legal abortion in all fifty states. I want my baby so much but my family are pushing for a termination as I should be having a child when the timing is right. This would have delayed everything. Im grateful I was in a position to have options and make a choice as a woman. My partner said he would support me either way but I knew deep down to him it might as well have been the end of the world. I will be 37 years old and have had previous abortions but after this miscarriage (I never had one before), fear that I will never conceive again came across me. Ive imagined names and what he would look like. I was literally in the same situation as you! I did have a moment of sadness and what ifs but ultimately I was so sick( 7 weeks 4 days) I could not wait to get it over with! A local democratic official in Framingham, Massachusetts is under fire for comments made about babies born with . I am totally against abortion. Like you, I could not have made a life for my baby at that time. I just passed the due date of what would have been my baby had i decided not to terminate. My younger half sister is also pregnant with a girl which I always thought I would have. April S., New Jersey. My and my husband have been diagnosed with infertility. Yes, he did everything he was supposed to and yes the tests afterwards declared him sterile. Let me tell you some things about me. [https://www.coparents.com/sperm-donors/how-to-find-a-free-sperm-donor-online.php]. Published by Family Friend Poems November 2008 with permission of the author. Like something to be dealt with, a burden that was his cross to bear. In her 2021 memoir, Teresa Leet shares her experiences in both having an abortion and placing her baby for adoption.While the abortion caused her years of emotional trauma, she has no regrets about choosing adoption.. A lack of knowledge about abortion. I think when we choose to do something like that we are so confused. I have a 13 year old with my boyfriend and we live together. Always imagine what he or she will look like. Love to each of you xxxxxxxxx. it really makes my decision i made 10 months ago seem like the right one. After I check in, I have to take another urine test. I thought I was the problem. What if I still had no money, no stable place to live? I know I made the right decision, but seeing him with his kids now breaks my heart bc he didnt want the one with me right now. And I dont feel well. Sometimes I think about taking my life and then I think about my daughter . Since I found out I was pregnant my life has been a living hell my husband immediately voiced we couldnt handle this right now, and though I was emotional about it at first, I knew he was right. I am yet to book the appointment but i know it is the better choice. I am experiencing so much guilt and pain going through this again, especially since I am 32 years old with no children and two months away from completing my masters. And the warmth of the sun on my back. Dear Reverend (name), It is not without much time and thought that I have decided to address myself to you. This resonates with me. I'll make you breakfast on Mother's Day However I was so sick I could barely make it to class and I was on the verge of going to the hospital for dehydration. I felt you crying when you went to the doctor. God is never bored of you. Ive always wanted to be a mom, and already, I feel like I know you and yet I cant have you.. I felt empty after too, 10 years later and I still have regret. She is with you in your dreams at least. I did not know why you were crying at the time. I stared and I watched the second line darken and become more prominent. Yes, Im still pregnant. I have too many dreams to fulfill and after the abortion i literally have 200 dollars in my bank account. I wish this decision wasnt so hard. It's just cruel." Everything about the timing felt wrong, but even then I still wanted my baby. I realize this is an odd place to share this information, and I am in a much different situation now, but several years ago my partner and I struggled through severe male factor infertility when TTC my youngest. When I first found out I initially was a bit upset but over a few days I grew very attached. But I'll also give you plenty of hugs and kisses Every night I went to bed, I cried. No baby should be murdered by its mother. They are a group of loving people who have been in your position. I just keep crying. I agree about age being just a number but my husband is 50 and not interested in doing this again. He tosses me the plastic bag with my burrito and chips (along with several containers of salsa that I didnt ask for but he knows me well enough to bring them anyway), and asks, with little emotion, Whats wrong? I sit down and ask him to sit too, and he does so, across the room. This brought me to tears. Ive never allowed a man to make me feel like this. It was at this point that I started to get really nervous, terrified actually. I had not passed my probation period and I wanted to prove myself, to be as good as I could be. Im so scared though, because Im no longer with my boyfriend I wont get to meet that baby anymore, if it happens it will be with someone else, most likely. I aborted my second child at 10 weeks 16 years ago and have regretted it since. I hope you are healing well and have found happiness in other areas of life, until you and your unborn baby see each other again. Its been 7 years since my abortion, and I miss her. I felt very depressed after I let you go - many days were hard to face, some I didn't. I told myself it was hormones. No matter how much support one has, it can so easily feel like you are going through it alone. All the best xxxx, Hi Owami, your message speaks to me because I was completely alone too. Thank you for this. Same with me 7 years. Hes verbally abusive, Ive spent all my money on him, no savings, lots of debt he makes the money I just make very little. It cant be easy and its hurtful for the man youre suppose to be with to embed abortion in your head after telling you, you two could try again. The way you wrote it felt so close to home for me and i just wanted to say thank-you, thank-you, thank-you. I have seen God cry when rocking little babies in His big loving arms. Hi, Mommy. God bless . I texted two of my closest friends. All the best. I dont blame you for choosing to terminate your pregnancy. You'll be grateful in eternity! I found out I was pregnant today after being a few days late on my period Im lost!!!!! Im very open about discussing this, but its been difficult. Unfortunately my health started to take a turn for the worse. This is the worst pain Ive ever felt and the most heartbroken and devastated Ive ever been. I am not in a relationship with the indivdual that I am pregnant with and nor do I want to be as it is a toxic relationship. I dont know what to do but I see no way out of this. However, reading this, even though it did make me cry, also made me realize I could look at this moment as something to grow from and not just bury it away as a bad memory. Then I found out I was pregnant! I just dont know what to do!!! We have been having the same unprotected sex as we were while still together. Im sad, but dont regret it. I am with someone now and he is lovely. ? Oh and one more thing abortion doesnt affect your fertility. Your dad looks at me and then the tests before putting them down, one in my lap and the other in his, but it falls in between us how symbolic. I feel like I have to get the abortion or he will resent me and our relationship will be over. Oh, Honey. Its going to be okay. Rapid thoughts flooded my brain. Im struggling with this right now. But I do not regret it. An Ohio lawmaker proposing a near-total abortion ban was given a hypothetical: A 13-year-old girl is raped and becomes pregnant as a result. Its been 3 months since my abortion. I just wanted to say thank-you for sharing your story. But its her decision in the end. Shes only known her boyfriend for 3 months and now they are contemplating a forever type of future together to raise this child. I paced the bathroom, test in hand, pants still around my ankles, repeating curses to myself like a meditative mantra. I pull out a second test with two pink lines, that I took while on the phone with my sister this time in the apartment, this time repeating different expletives. X. Whats crazy is this exact story is mines (not in reality but figuratively) I literally did everything she did, said everything she said. To this day I cry in memory of the child that could have been. And wham, I unexpectedly end up pregnant, at 41. to NOT have to make this decision. Tears and snot are running down my face as I write this, I have 2 beautiful little girls after this and it hasnt got any better. Did you end up keeping your baby ? I pray one day my baby will cone back to me. We had to double down on our declaration our family was complete. Mothers should never be bored of their children. She wrote this piece to destigmatize abortion and to offer a story of strength and hope to women and men alike. I have never commented on a public post but I feel I need to do. As a minor in highschool who lives with her boyfriend (of 2 years), I had to have a termination back in September after finding out I was pregnant days before the dads birthday (Aug. 28). I did regret it but I cant imagine hows my life would had been if I didnt do it. Hi Kenz. I havent spoken to my parents yet. I got married in December, I just found out that I am pregnant last week, Im running my masters degree and my husband isnt financially stable, feeling really sad and confused about what to do next. Have you done it? Im so confused and torn between getting an abortion or keeping the baby. It ruins our relationship badly as we are both regretting the biggest mistake we made in our lives. And draw pictures, made especially for you. I think about you so often and wish so badly I could turn back time. I was very helpless. He made it clear that he did not want to have another child and truly no matter how bad I felt I wanted my baby, I did not want to do it by myself. Me too, yesterday I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend also doesnt want to keep it. Im only 21 and Im not financially free. And try my hardest at everything I do. Took the first pill today to block the hormones. After a further 2 weeks things started to settle down. I couldnt relate more to this paragraph you wrote: My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 years, we have a 9 year old & make about $80K (maybe more) combined income but yet Im contemplating abortion. Sharla Ynostrosa | 01/11/2021. And because I am one, I made the right decision. You were my everything. We sleep in the same room that night, and the next day he drives me to work. According to Florida's Reducing Fetal and Infant Mortality law, which was implemented last July, abortions are prohibited after 15 weeks of gestation, with a few exceptions, including one that.